In this billion people world only few are the chosen ones to have possessed this niche skill. But those who have it right are either everyone’s favorite or everyone’s hated. Manipulation can be for good reasons as well as bad reasons. Your audience are the right ones to decide which side you are on. Manipulation is more fabricated version of Influence. This could be good or bad again depends on the people perceptions on how they take it to themselves. Harassment, Abuse, Bribery, Domination are some of the bad forms of manipulations. Attraction, Growth, Influence are some of the good forms of manipulation. It is not important who manipulated you but what worth considering is how you got manipulated. You got to have a acute control over your brain when you are accompanied by a manipulative person. They are born hypnotist. They know how to route your minds thought process to their voice and then carry you away with their sweet words of influence. Have you ever been manipulated anytime in your life ? The answer is yes we actually DO and GET manipulated almost every day in our lives.
Lets examine some personas:
CASE 1: Manipulating a Shopkeeper for selling a commodity at a lower price
Form of manipulation – BARGAIN
Soft skills needed – Convincing and Negotiation
CASE 2: Manipulating your Girlfriend to go out for a Date
Form of manipulation – EMOTIONAL MANIPULATION
Soft skills needed – Politeness, Convincing, Negotiations, Emotions, Expressive feelings
CASE 3: Manipulating your Boss to agree on something
Form of manipulation – CONVINCING MANIPULATION
Soft skills needed – Storyteller, Convincing, Expressive feelings
CASE 4: Manipulating yourself to compete and match with your peers performance
Form of manipulation – SELF MANIPULATED
Soft skills needed – Analysis, Diplomacy, Jealousy
Here the personas who have been manipulated were Shoppers, Girlfriend, Boss or Yourself but something worth considering is are the tools or soft skills used for manipulations. These soft skills are those invisible weapons which attacks your minds with very high intensity. The kind of wounds they give your mind are not an instant healer because your minds go unresponsive to these wound this is where INFLUENCE is born. Gradually these wounds in your mind starts growing each day since no other ongoing thought could suppress it and this is where MOTIVATION is born. Now these growing wounds in your mind has started taking control of your body and it cannot agree to disagree to follow the commands of your unhealed wounded mind and is willing to take some action and this is where a HABIT is born. This is a first step of a highly manipulated or influenced mind which do not stop until that foreseen goal is met. There is an other aspect to it and that is when these manipulations take a negative form in someones mind, The journey then from influence to habit takes a different route, the repercussion then are drastic. Usually this kind of manipulation with your mind is termed as BRAIN WASH typically intended to create trouble for others. The process of manipulation is still the same. The good part is you still have some control to change your path if you are willing to.
The only solution to negative thoughts is just to IGNORE. Like Negotiation, This is a very important tool in our lives. Do not hold too much in your minds. Treat your mind like a free spirited bird who flows with the flow. Do not cage it by holding personal grudge against someone. Its gods most beautiful creation, use it in right way with the right direction. You would encounter with people having infinite shades of persona but try identifying the hidden clean shade of that person. Every person has some good things to influence you try identifying it. Be a motivator with constructive thoughts.
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